Yes! Problems! Something we like to hide from family and even from friends. We don’t want anybody to worry about us and we might think, we’ll get this straight by ourselves. Also, we fear we might overload the other. When a friend comes to me and tells me about their problem, I feel a bit helpless because I would like to take all that bothers the other away in a minute, but I can’t. I think at least a day intensively about my friend’s problem.
Some of us have less problems and some others have more, depending on lifestyle, circumstances and communication skills.
Some of you might feel like me and see the same problems appearing again and again, just like circles of which we can’t get out.
I’ve tried almost everything. At first, I tried to point them out and explain myself, then I tried to see myself as the cause of the problem, then I started fighting against and I have recently also tried laissez-faire. Nothing of it really works in the long term.
So, tonight I decided to turn the wheel completely around, to finally move out of that old, smelly circle.
From now on I will try to be better prepared when the problem stops by again. I will be more thoughtful considering my words and actions and I will also be more consequent. Said and done! Actions have consequences.
I will stop to see myself as the victim and I also won’t allow anybody to point me out as the cause of the problem.
I will try to communicate much clearer my observations and needs.
Guess, this is it for now! xoxo