When it’s done


Roles and expectations

We rarely ask questions
Who’s the controller
And who the caretaker?
That’s usually clear.
We do like
What we know.
Soft and washy traditions
fixed in our minds.
And when it’s done
It looks like a warfield.
Love was never the problem,
But the lack of respect
For life itself in all its facets.
Yet people prefer to talk
Instead of asking questions.




Sometimes we walk

through life

unlearn to see the scars

we got while together

‘n just go ahead

and smile at each other

forgetting the fact

that our little walk

takes place on a vulcano

which isn’t sleeping


Found on Displate.com

Love’s Stages


This poem was written for my brother-in-law and his beautiful wife. They got married in December and this is what came to my mind.


Love’s Stages

When young
we chase it
Madly passionate about the other
and head over heels
We give our bodies away
While growing older
We feel a stronger need to share
Our deepest thoughts
And to be held
by someone truly special
While growing together
We learn to listen
And therefore understand
We may kiss less passionate
But grip much stronger
While letting the fruits
Of our attraction grow
We learn about limitations
And unconditional love
Nurturing itself
From generation to generation
May love be your companion
And make life worth living
by: Igotdaisies

The Benefits of Having a Pet – Miaow Miaow


About six weeks ago I became the aunt of a cat called Kikinha and it is lovely. I am her auntie for a limited time only, taking care of her while my student is travelling. Since I have her I sleep much less, and yes: Cats and sofas – they attract each other ‘_’! And yet, it is all worth it.

1st Benefit: Fluffy fur! Cats are so fluffy! When I cuddle with a cat I feel like in heaven. I even had an allergy to cats but my body managed to adapt.

2nd Benefit: Her purr! This sound is the most positive feedback another being can give you! Burrrr!

3rd Benefit: Whenever you get home and there is always someone in a good mood welcoming you!

4th Benefit: She likes being close to you (but she chooses when). Aww ^^!

5th Benefit: She hunts everything that moves around. Haven’t seen a cockroach entering the house in a long time.

I had two cats before Kikinha and I purposely didn’t get myself a pet right now. My life is full of changes, be it moving places, working in another city, travelling abroad, visits over the weekend. All this makes it impossible to take care of someone for fifteen or more years. A pet is like a baby in some way. It depends on you. You are its family. And you will grow old with it. I am 35 now. Would I get a pet, there would certainly come a time to say good bye. By then I would have plenty of wrinkles and almost my all of my hair would have turned gray. You don’t have to be as afraid of responsibility as I am. And maybe one day I won’t be afraid any longer, either.

Kika and Kikinha!


Long-distance relationships


They are tough,
they are challenging
and there might be plenty of misunderstandings.

But they still can work when both parts are really attracted to each other and patient enough to wait for the right timing.

And you also need a portion of creativity. I found this series of photos which I took for my sweetheart in 2009 while I was living in Heidelberg and he working in Rio.

We started dating in 2008 under some quite challenging circumstances. We have been together for only two months when I moved to Beijing to work there during the Olympics. To show me his love, my sweetheart even cam over for a week before he packed up his stuff and left Heidelberg for good. It was our deal, that he should take care of his career and I would finish my studies. He was my third boyfriend and I had already found out about the simple fact that feelings and things can change over the years. I did not want him to give anything up for me and then maybe one day regret his choice. So our love spread over the continents and after three years of visits I packed up what was left of my things and came over with two large suitcases and a piece of hand luggage. It worked out.
***So, here’s the photo series!***

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